Thursday, October 25, 2012

How I remember her.

When I was little my best friends mom was the coolest mom on the block. In the city maybe. She stocked the house with stuff I never got to eat like Pringles and licorice and junk food! We just never bought that kind of stuff. She would be the one to always drive us anywhere we wanted to go. To the movies, castle park or just to the mall. We would all pile into her station wagon and off we went.

Friday nights were the sleepover nights at Ashley’s house. Starting early in elementary school, the 5 of us best friends would head over after school to Ashley’s house and spend the night over there every Friday night. We would always have something good for dinner or maybe Jan would order pizza for us. We would always have enough gum or candy to last us through the night. We would stay up and watch movies, or MAKE movies! We played Barbie’s or babies. We listened to loud music and/or played Sonic the Hedgehog. A big chunk of me grew up in Ashley’s house as a kid. Her parents seemed like Ken and Barbie. They had a nice big house that was always clean and their fridge was always full. They always seemed like such a perfect happy family. Clearly I learned as I grew up that is never really the case. But regardless her parents always made me feel like part of the family! Ashley’s mom and I always had a close relationship. When they moved to Colorado in 7th grade, I was devastated! Jan bought me a ticket to fly out and visit them. Through the years Ashley and I always stayed in contact with each other! As we got a little bit older the whole family would come out every summer and rent a beach house for a week! I would always be invited to hang with them and they still continued to treat me like I was another part of their family! Jan would always make sure there was room for me or pack me an extra sandwich. She always was so loving to me and treated me like another daughter! As we got older she would be the cool mom to hang out with us when we went out drinking at the beach. She would buy us shots and make us laugh. She always did things that I never thought moms did.

When we were young (2nd grade) Jan gave me the nickname of Jamester which still sticks to this day. The whole Wiles family still calls me Jamester! Being Ashley’s best friend I always got to see the interaction between Jan and Ashley. They always had this funny inside language with each other that always made me laugh. Doo-doo. They always said that to each other and I don’t even know why but it always made me laugh.

I miss Janda’s smile and her tenderness! She always wanted to know what was going on with my family and remembered everything about everyone in my family. She was a mom ear when I needed to vent while sitting on the beach. She always did have good advice for me and I will always appreciate everything she was for me, and more importantly to her kids. My best girls. Amy, Ashley and Lisa were like my sisters growing up. We annoyed each other and probably still do. But I love that Wiles family like my own!

When I got a heartbreaking phone call from Ashley telling me her mom had died, all I could think about is how hard this was going to be on the girls. Going through it myself, I knew and still know what’s to come. I flew out to CO for a few days to be there for the funeral and it was beautiful. Nothing big or formal, but just perfect for Jan. Some of her ashes were spread on top of this beautiful mountain where her sister’s ashes had been spread 6 years before that. They kept some of her ashes to spread out here by the beach. Jan always loved the beach and was always that one thing that made her happy. That thing she looked forward to every single year. She would sit on the patio and read or just watch the ocean. That was her comfort place!
This was the top of the beautiful mountain where we had the service.
Ashley's dad and Jan's boyfriend spreading Jans' ashes on the mountain top.

Jeff spreading Ashes. Thought this was a beautiful picture!

Jan was an organ donor and they did take her eyes. Turns out her corneas were donated to one or two recipients that live in CA. Which, according to Amy, means she will see the ocean again. Warms my heart! I miss the lady and love the Wiles family like my own! I know it’s going to be a tough struggle with losing their mom. But now my mom and my Aunt Jan are in good company. Love you Janda Lee!

Tuesday, October 23, 2012

27 weeks

These weeks just keep on zooming by! 12 weeks to go!! Life seems to be skipping so fast these days, week by week it’s flying by. Life is sure getting harder the bigger and more tired I get! Jack is the size of a head of cauliflower this week! (feels like a watermelon).
If he is growing the way Alana grew, he surely is 2 weeks ahead of schedule. Sleeping is no fun still…. not looking forward to that not changing for a few years. I did find this “sleepytime” tea that helps me on random nights. It’s all natural stuff that is supposed to help. It knocks me out for sure, but I have a hard time staying asleep. Some random things about being 27 weeks:
Maternity clothes still suck, although I think I’m lasting a bit longer in the few bottoms I do have. I’m sure in a few weeks I’ll be crying about them again.
I learned traveling on an airplane while 6 ½ months pregnant sucks badly!
Jack is going to be a soccer player for sure! Alana NEVER kicked me so hard and moved around so much!
My sciatica is going to be the death of me – who knew this was so much pain.
Speaking of pain – My body is spreading and growing and my pelvic bones HURT. Doesn’t Jack know he’s not coming out that way and my body doesn’t need to grow or stretch that way? Wish I could tell him.
Sitting at a desk for a living is no fun while pregnant.
People who say “Holy cow, how much longer do you have to go?” annoy me.
I’m hot and haven’t felt cold in 6 ½ months!
I don’t feel like cooking, cleaning or doing anything when I get home from working all day. UH.
Alana hugs and kisses Jack every day and night and talks to him on occasion.
Alana thinks she will be changing him, feeding him and bathing him when he comes out. We’ll see how that goes.
My best friend from CO is going to fly out after he is born! YAY!
Jack’s room is almost done, just need to get creative with getting the name up on the wall.
I am ever so grateful that Alana will be 4 ½ when he arrives!
Miguel’s Jr. just opened by my work… that’s going to be a sure way to fatten him up before he comes out!
Changing insurances companies in my last trimester is scary.
Lots of other random things going on. Crazy to think that in 12 weeks he’ll finally be here! I can’t wait to meet the little guy and introduce him to Alana!

Monday, October 22, 2012

Apple Pickin

 We took the girls apple pickin this year! The last time we all went was 4 years ago when Lexie was just a month old! My mom was with us last time we went up so it was kind of sad, but something we plan to do every year with the girls. We went up to Oak Glen on a really beautiful day! The sun was out but it wasn't too hot! We got up there early so we could spend a few hours picking apples and then head home! Alana told everyone she knows about apple picking and how cool it was! We pretty much ate all the dozens of apples we picked right away. They were tasty!! Thanks for all the pics sis!

There were so many beautiful butterflies out and this one let Donovan get a really close picture of it!
My awesome family!

These three little girls were so happy to get their own bags to fill with their own apples!

These two were like two peas in a pod all day! They get along so well!

Daddy helping Alana reach a good one!

Smiling girs!

We visited their little pumpkin patch.

A loving Ellie!


Group Shot

Me and my girls!

Sweet Lexie girl

Very intense game of checkers!

We had to taste some home made cider!

The Cadiente's!

Snack time